Relationships

Today I found out that one of my friends has finally asked the girl he likes out. I’ve worked with both of them & know them really well. But how is their relationship going to turn out? They are pretty young, neither of them have had a serious relationship before. It is so hard to tell, because people change after their first kiss, even after their first hug.
My relationship is still a mystery. I keep wondering, is it a relationship at all? What makes a relationship a relationship? How can you tell if it’s meant to last or fail? How long is it going to last? What are the consequences? And when do you say “I do” or “I don’t”?
Back to Robert & Kara though. She is excited, I am sure he is too. The news made me happy period. The news made my day. As soon as Kara said “Guess what?” I knew Robert must have asked her out, well I didn’t tell her that, I decided to let her tell me what happened. She did. Well we are like best friends, we went together through so much, a raccoon attack, looking for her necklace & graduation ring, reading Harry Potter, watching Star Wars with Robert & falling asleep while watching Star Wars with Robert, joking about Obi. We had fun. I am sure Robert is happy, I actually know he is. Today I emailed him & told him that he did the right thing.
After being all happy for my friends, I started discussing my relationship. Why when other people’s relationships seem so much easier, mine is so complicated? Well yes there is the distance issue, but I am good at long distance relationships. But then there is the question “Do I really want to be with this person? Is he the one?”
I have seen bad relationships, I know people who come from broken homes, people who are abused, what are they going to be like in their relationships?
Relationships have so many steps, they are like stairs & two people are climbing those stairs together & sometimes you get tired & start slowing down when your partner is going fast. The worst thing is when one of you decides he doesn’t want to keep going, then you take a deep breath & go all the way down, people tell you to take it easy, but taking it easy doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. And then you are sore, sore from the relationship, because you’ve climbed the stairs all the way, maybe even moved in with the person, and now it’s over, maybe you are in pain, or hurting, and you know that pain relievers won’t help. That’s exactly what friends are for! So turn to them, because they will never turn you down.
Kara & Robert? They are still together! Maybe if I stay here long enough they’ll invite me to their wedding.