Letter to Mother of Autistic Child

Dear G-a,

YOU write-"I'm dreaming that Dimitar doesn’t have autism and speak, show me emotions."

What kind of emotions you expect him to show you?
I spent with your son only one hour and saw a lot of emotions
Dimitar was curious about the new environment he got in and actively explored it. He expressed displeasure when I tried to take his hand in the very beginning, he showed pleasure when I offered him some entertainment. He kept a good eye contact. He didn’t object  any body contact as patting on the shoulder. He showed irritation when he couldn’t get what he wanted-to open the door, and he showed satisfaction with getting another way out. He displayed cooperation when I helped him with water and vocalized his request for chocolate. He gave very emotional “high five” in the end   It’s a lot of emotions and feelings for one hour from the boy during the first meeting
If you expect him to show you emotions of loving you then probably your expectation could not be fulfilled, BUT then you have an opportunity to practice a real maternal  love-Unconditional  Love…..that is a love when a loving person do not expect anything in return

YOU write
"I love Dimitar so much and l accept him, but l love Dimitar will be healthy.
I don’t know what you mean by healthy. Probably  to be as everybody else, as majority. Your son always will be different and the sooner you accept that and start to understand him and the way he functions-the better for you and for him The longer you’d be sorry that your boy is autistic the longer you'd prevent his development. Because as soon as parents of children with autism CHANGE their ATTITUDE -accept their kids the way they are, stop mourning  about that, stop comparing them with regular kids –the better. Instead they start to learn to understand their kids, assist them in their unique way then they start to feel proud and happy with their kid’s progress, they start to find great things in their kids and so on. No different country or government support can give you that. Its your personal life experience with your child
Parents who changed their attitude experience a lot of joy from being parents of those kids. It’s a difficult life experience being a parent of autistic child, but its opportunity for you to grow, learn new things and develop yourself in a way you maybe don’t expect? but then would be grateful and satisfied.
 I wish you and your great boy all the very best