From love to hatred

My Daughter wrote:

We would not have as many problems between mom and me (mom remembers 3) if we had no other relatives. Learning to trust my mom inwardly is not the biggest challenge, and I hope I'm improving at it.

It's when other relatives are involved that things become really terrible.  None of our relatives (except for one) likes my mom.  Worse, most of them hate and fear her, and they try to convince me of the same. (very nice relatives indeed!!!

 And my biggest enemies- short memory and soft character , (what relatives used to get their goal) always let me down. Relatives would start giving me specific examples, showering me with nasty details, and I wouldn't remember exactly how this or that happened, so I would not be able to defend my mom. I would decide, OK, everyone stays with his own opinion, they think what they want about her, but I know better, since no one lived with my mom as long and as close as I did.  But that's not the end, what usually happens is that I fall  under relative's influence and eventually start believing that my mom is doing things incorrectly, that she is doing me or other people harm, that she is a nasty person, etc. 

 And I hate myself for this.
 
PROMOTION of HATRED

WEll....healthy people promoting HATRED.....it was not easy to believe and I tortured many psychologists to be sure that I didn't confuse anything
No-everything is right. In order to separate a child and a parent professionals promote HATRED being sure that its temporary measure. Its probably temporary when it used naturally be teenagers , but not by adults with help of specialists delivering through the mind. In our case it seems forever and I followed many other cases on forum


HATRED  directed to self (created by our relatives )is very dangerous thing which My Daughter never experienced living with me....(soft character is a good character traits to have when loving people are around)..
But then psychologists directed that SELF-HATRED towards mother (me)

And here we go....now everybody is satisfied...
Very Special Relatives destroyed love and placed hatred on that place between me and my daughter and  grand kids......defend that tightly

IT'S ONE STEP FROM LOVE to HATRED!
Indeed!