Man and woman can t be friends

I sent u those videos, especially the one called 'the lover', because i sometimes feel that way…

like i am floating! like a music! like a beautiful scenery painted by my Allah... (i am being very brief here! – I have started to lose my memory and my touch – I feel like God has started to take it back from me, because i am not on the right path!)... (continue reading from '.....my Allah') ....and so the contradiction comes in ...and then i try to keep it clean because Allah is involved and I try to mend earlier mistakes... but alas!!... Iqbal the poet said "shakhe nazuk pe jo aashyan ho ga- napaydar ho ga" which simply means "a nest on a weak branch will always be temporary!"... so my nest Breaks down!.... because i didn’t start it for Allah and i can’t do anything without Allah... then i realise Allah says satisfy ur needs by what has been made lawful to u. (plz note that needs do not necessarily mean that they are vile! They have been created by God and God is beautiful… the wisest!) this naturally means for me that i should get married… Inshallah i am going to be married soon... i hope to find love in it – which God has designed for a couple! and i believe it’s gonna be the most beautiful because no one is wiser than Allah and if it’s not beautiful then i seek God's guidance and Him alone to get me out of my troubles!

i think it’s a long mail for now
and my back has started to pain
i'll read ur mail again and try to get back if possible with further answers or questions.
thanx
Adnan

ohh i missed a thing
when i said 'that’s why i either love women or quit talking to them' it should also include that i can have meaningful dialogue with women like what we are trying to do. Without involving love in it. Like a simple learning exercise that we are doing right now. But as soon as we are over with our 'objective' of learning, i would like to disengage from it. Although i will feel sad for sometime but i think the best friendship will be to learn from each other and move on! simple reason is that strictly talking… my religion doesn’t like interaction between men and women (except for countable relatives) without a legal reason in the eyes of sharia (islamic law)! u can surely have intellectual meaningful dialogues between them but NO chit chats for fun like friends do!

in western world this is probably known as extremism or fundamentalism.

KAMA, part I