Happened in Real Life

   
 It happened I developed System which could improve mental ability of disable kids, supported it by theoretical work of Soviet and other psychologists and wanted very much to organize self-learning stimulated and motivated environment (similar to Montessori toys).
Most ерщыу kids are not playing with toys, but they have ифышс needs. If not  developing them, then child remains in state of vegetable and his behavior is handled by medication.
Instead of  toys could be used his basic needs for food, drink and whatever interest a child has
Environment should be organized the way, so it could teach a child needed skills and at the same time to develop him mental ability

     For example, to drink, a child needs to get a cup. To get a cup, a child need to open the cabinet door; to open the cabinet door, a child needs to deal with the lock. In the closet, the cup is in a box with his photo. She needs to find his box and open it. It could be surprise from time to time there for stimulation as rewards. " Q! Today you did it very quickly! You deserves s prize! All this learns gradually, BUT an adult should be able to NOT do it for a child. Teaching a child to do this is easy. Any children like to learn But adults should not to interfere with their child's learning is a problem. I thought a lot about that after experience in MK school

    First I had intention to accommodate myself and then think about my projects, but then AGAIN dangerous thought uninvitedly came in and I started to look for both options Then I met Alvaro. During 20 years in USA I had a boos who not only supported me in my efforts, but created conditions for me in order I could wok with kids my way. At the beginning when we started the first kids residence he as a manager wanted to do the best for the kids It was a great time. The stuff was devoted and very special. But then financial family problems started. He wanted to move to another state and I wanted to follow him as I know without him the residence would be different. Then many things happened and all innovative ideas were gone. He moved to another residence and took there for special work, but not much could he do as kids were not staff big concern-mostly cell phones and  money

    I was very interested in communication of low-functioning nonverbal kids. He helped me with that, making favorable conditions for work. I saw amazing things how those kids treated each other and how much they started to change. But nothing I could do to make it a part of their lives when I'm not there. That is HUGE problem . Specialists or schools teach them different skills and knowledge but only little minimum get incorporated into real life.

I did try, but met strong resistance from the staff, as it was an extra work for them. I didn't insist and continue working with the boys. But a child who was peacefully sitting on staff lap soaking his finger now changed and wanted to move, to explore things, to do something. And they started " to treat his behavior" with medication. He almost died. My boss could do nothing as there was forces much stronger than him

     Alvaro was the person so much as that my boss and I think that how it started. And he seemed so sincere when I shared with him my concerns. When I saw that house the first impression was very bad, but then Alvaro started to say how everything could be changed and he has friends in municipality and he introduced me to his friends who also love special children and would love to help them, but cannot . He introduced me to other people orphans , school and we started to create different plans.

    At the beginning I was very much concern with quality of the house and looked for professional help to do inspection, but Alvaro convinced me that all things will be fixed. At the same time he started to rush me. He somehow made me to do buying without getting me see the house inside myself the second time. Somehow I started to trust him on everything seeing us working together and started to imagine what I need to do there in order kids could be developed in their natural way. That took all my thoughts

     When I got in that mental space I forgot all the important life things and start to trust people see them in the best light and so on   

    Well in result of it I'm completely alone in the house which is dangerous to stay in, cannot be fixed, need to be demolished . I have no ANY real help or support, but a lot of people around trying to take advantage from the situation I'm in. I cannot really talk to people any more.
Realizing my wrong behavior and wrong actions I still think that what Alvaro did was a little bit as a act of killing-killing body and spirit. Its especially hard after I spent so much time sharing with him all my experience and the story and my intentions here

Naturally Alvaro and his Russian boss put ALL responsibility on me and create different story to show me in a bad light-everything how it should be in a real life


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