Feelings

...people have feelings.

Just like you do. Yes, you do.

People are not mythical creatures you can imagine any way you like.

No matter what you imagine,  people are gonna feel what they are gonna feel and think what they are gonna think. I almost hate to break it to you, as your hope is sooo babylike "nurture me, what did Santa bring".. But.
There isn't a shortcut. There is not a lifehack that makes people your own extensions, if you grab somebody's hand and hit yourself with it is still you who is doing the beating.

And all that seems to really bug you when it comes to romance.
And I would just love to insert a little paragraph right here about it but it better stay omitted. Because you are gonna hate it. So much so that of course what's not yours should not exist. But there is not a lifehack that makes people your own extensions.  And it seems to really bug you.

But it should not.

People have their feelings. You have your feelings. I have my feelings.

Is there anything besides yourself that is not hurting you by merely existing??

If I and my feelings are surprisingly not your thing - you should not be surprised, as we are not the same person.

And I am sorry if I have hurt yours.